A person’s strength is shown by how much they can allow themselves to feel — to let the tears flow and not suppress their true emotions, even when things are hard.
We often believe that a strong person is someone who holds it all in, keeps their head high, and doesn’t show that something is wrong.
But people can feel it. Children can sense when something is wrong with their mother or father, even when nothing is said.
Does such a person really show strength — for example, as a parent to their children? No. They show them that even when life gets tough, you should suppress everything inside, not express your feelings, not cry. But children still feel it anyway.
True strength lies in admitting your real emotions. To acknowledge to yourself that something is hard, painful, or overwhelming. To stop suppressing, and to be authentic — just as you are. That’s where real inner strength lives.
Suppression only leads to illness. We’ve suppressed ourselves so much that we no longer know who we truly are. We’ve covered ourselves in layers — like an onion, layer after layer.
Try it yourself. Stand in front of the mirror, look into your own eyes, and admit to yourself how you truly feel in your heart.
Don’t hold back the tears… the sobs… don’t suppress yourself anymore.
That’s where your strength is.
PS: This past week, I spent several days accompanying a mother to the oncology department. It was a week full of deep conversations and big “Aha” moments. I’m grateful for that time — it taught me a lot.
About the Author of the Article
I am the author of the book How to Heal? My Journey of Healing from Depression Without Medication. And Not Only from That. It was accompanied by nonstop migraines, anxiety, panic attacks, and suicidal thoughts. The first time, I completely healed in 8 months, and about 10 years later, in 1 year and 3 months. It was a path of changes I had to make if I truly wanted to be healthy. I succeeded.